Parents refer and encourage their child(ren) to participate in the Student Assistance Program, but often would like to know how to help them from home – especially after the loss of a loved one. Following are some common reactions to grief and some suggestions from the Student Assistance Program Institute on how you can help your child through these tough times.

How Parents Can Help
Be involved with your child.
Observe his/her behavior.
Listen to your child.
Help your child to explore his/her feelings.
Reassure your child that his/her feelings are normal.
Give assurances of love, support and safety.
Do not judge feelings.
Do not minimize the loss or attempt to take the pain away.
Use clear language; died, death, dead. Discuss with your child his/her feelings about attending the funderal if your child attends.
Routine and consistency are important.
Be sensitive to the need for peer group support.
Set reasonable limits and provide structue to provide feelings of security.
Permit or encourage your child to talk about the person who died.
Get extra help if you need it.